I was fearful that at any moment, they would decide I didn’t deserve their love. I spent most of my life battling a poverty mindset that kept me from living my dreams. This led to me living the life of a perfectionist-fixer.

I strived to be the glue for my family. If there was a problem, I had to be the one to solve it. This was my journey, and I continued this behavior, even as a first-generation college student. Most college students don’t take student loans because they want to send money back home. Or to help their parents buy a car. But I was that kind of student. This fixer behavior continued, even after I worked my way out of poverty. There was always a side of me that felt guilty for having more and I didn’t know how to break the cycle.

Well, those days are gone! Coaching has transformed me into the person I always dreamed I could be. I have learned to let go of the past, so I can live in the present and plan for my future. I am no longer willing to accept struggle love or include people in my life who are not invested in who I am becoming. I am no longer driven by fear-based emotions that make me feel unworthy, guilty, or less than. I can take comfort in knowing that God is my guide and He has a plan for my life. I can lean into the love my husband, Dr. Lloyd Jackson, freely gives without fear of rejection. 

Why, because I am doing my work! I have become aware of the triggers that take me to a place of fear and I’ve learned the tools that help me work through those emotions. I have found my why, my purpose, and my passion! And that why is coaching.

Coaching transformed my thinking-feeling cycle, and it can do the same for you! Statistics show that 80% of New Year’s resolutions fail by February. Why, because resolutions aren’t the answer. To influence change in your life, you have to go through some self-discovery to decide what you really want. 

I want to help you get there! We are all growing and becoming, who will you become? In order to win in the game of life, we must know how to play the game. The best way to play the game is to have people on your team who are invested in you and want you to win! They must be open to providing you with insight to keep you from getting trapped in the roadblocks all around you.

Do you have someone on your team you can talk through your plans with, without feeling judged? Or do the people on your team sit back and watch you play the game wrong because they secretly want you to fail? 

Are you positioning yourself to win? You must have a plan for the future and take steps daily to move yourself forward. When we are stuck, we don’t need people rubbing our backs unless they are pushing us forward. Don’t stay stuck in the past, let my coaching help you move forward!